I spent some time this week watching old classic movies. They're all different sorts. Some were spy movies, some were romantic comedies, some were comedies, and some were dramas. Most of these movies had an underlying theme about love. But we're not just talking love that our parents have for each other love that we have for children love that we have for friends I'm talkin' romantic love. Now I love a good romance as much as the next guy or gal in my case, but the love and these movies kind of drove me nuts. Each of these characters seem to fall madly in love with their counterpart within a matter of hours or days. I really don't know a whole lot about love, And in all honesty and not sure if I ever will, but I've been of the opinion that real love, no true love, doesn't just happen in an instant. This may be the cynic talking right now, but those movies as beautiful as they are, seemed to portray love is so easy.
Like I said, I've never been in love, but I do love people. I love my family, I love my friends, I love my best friends, and in some ways I even love the people I work with. However, even as much as I care for and love these people, it's complicated, and difficult, and sometimes downright impossible. So if this kind of love is complicated and difficult and sometimes downright impossible, I can only imagine how difficult and complicated and impossible true love and real love and romantic love is really gonna be.
I truly hope that love isn't as impossible as it seems from the outside looking in. However I also hope it isn't as easy as those classic movies made it seem. Because if its easy you won't work at it. Because if its easy will you think it's worth it? Because if it's easy would you even care? Because if it's easy would you want it?
Your thoughts are right on! Real love doesn't happen fast, and it's constantly changing and needing work. As my mom says, it "matures". In the movies you only see the love when it's fresh, and the excitement is still there--you don't often see what happens after all that....
ReplyDeleteThe cool thing about being in love, is that all the things that would normally bother you in all other loving relationships don't seem as important enough to argue about. There are plenty of things that bug me about Adam, but we have time to grow together, and compromising isn't a hard thing for me with him. If you really love them, then you consider their feelings a whole lot more than your selfish ones. This is also assuming that the significant other loves you back :)
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